“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” – Colossians 3:12
Read Colossians 3:12 in context
No so long ago, I was looking on Facebook and found some “day trip” photos that a family friend posted. “I didn’t know they were doing that?” I said to myself. “How fun.”
Upon closer inspection I learn that several families had gone on the trip together and for what ever reason, my family had been excluded.
It hurts to get picked last or to not get picked at all.
For the record. I don’t feel like my friends did anything wrong. My family is part of a large community of families. Sometimes everyone can get together and sometimes there are constraints (time, venue, schedules etc.) I can’t invite the whole group over for dinner, but that doesn’t mean I should never invite anyone over for dinner. I think the same logic applies to the day trip. (Too many families = herding cats = lousy day trip)
But in the moment, my feelings were hurt. So I had a choice to make. Focus on the hurt emotion or focus on God.
When I focus on the emotion, I tend to deliberately minimize my reaction. I explain it away, tell myself I don’t care, or come up with some reason why I wouldn’t have gone anyway.
But what I need to do is focus on God. I am chosen and loved by the God of the universe. He will always pick me first. He’s already invited me to hang out. He accepts me and loves me. He’s gone to outrages lengths to save me and redeem me.
Viewed through the proper frame, those Facebook photo’s don’t have to feel like a snub. My cup is full, so I don’t need to be included. I can be happy that my friends were able to find some time to hang out. With young kids, that time is a premium.
If you’re reading this and what I’m writing resonates with you. Know that God will always choose you. Your cup is full and you don’t need it filled by anything or anyone else.